This is a picture of the sides of my bed. Notice something missing? No clock. No, we do not have one at all in our bedroom. Every night we set our phone alarms for the times we need to be up, then go to bed. Do you know why? The only time to us that matters when we’re in bed, is knowing the time we need to get out of bed. If you don’t want to get rid of your clock, just turn it around so you cannot see the time.
How did we come to this? Our son had just been born and was waking up about every 1 1/2 hours at night. A regular newborn schedule. I found myself glancing at the clock each time…thinking…it’s 1:30 a.m. Then at 3:00 a.m. I was up again to take care of our son. Then as I see 4:30 a.m. on the clock, I thought…OMG…now 5:00 a.m.?!?!? Our daughter will be up at 7:30, it’s going to take me at least 30 minutes to fall back asleep…etc…etc…etc…I was SO TIRED!! Even when it came to going to sleep…I would fret over the fact that it was too late and I wouldn’t get much sleep before our son would first wake up.
Then one day, I set the alarm on our clock for the time I wanted to get up and then turned the clock around. We didn’t have cellphone alarm clocks at the time. I was shocked at how much my life improved. Did my son wake up at night? You bet he did…but…I had NO IDEA what time it was. I had no idea how long I was awake for those periods of time. I just knew that I got up to take care of my baby’s needs and then went back to sleep. When I’d go back to sleep I would fall asleep so much faster because although I knew that my alarm clock was going to go off at some point…I didn’t know whether I had 5 hours or 1 1/2 hours or 15 minutes of sleep left.
I got up when I had to, to address the needs that needed to be met and went back to sleep until my day was ready to begin.
Even before we had children, when I was working, I would find myself losing sleep over the worry over the sleep I was losing or the fact that I was constantly playing a timing schedule in my head if I had woken up but it was only 3 a.m. Could I be able to fall back asleep FAST enough to actually get SOME sleep before my 5:00 a.m. alarm would go off?
We all plan and schedule our lives so much. Think about the times before we had tv and clocks. People worked until they were done, went to bed when they were tired and when they woke up it was time to begin their day. All they knew was that some point at night they were tired and went to sleep and when the sun came up they woke up. Not too bad of a concept:-)
If you have a clock in your room, set your alarm and turn it around. See if you sleep any better.
I, by no means am a sleep doctor or have any medical experience or training in sleep. However, I have my own personal experiences that have worked for me and worked amazing with me with our children(I can’t be cranky about how many times I get woken up because I have no idea…it all blurs). We have our routine that works for us:-)
Remember…They will Love Your Effort<3